Absolutely many things.
First let’s posit some descriptions of each of these three relationships and their relative affect on those invovled.
What is discipleship? -
- Discipleship is an older or/and more experienced person meeting with a younger
- More academic, bible study, involving curriculum or material,
- Training, helping people develop and grow in spiritual areas.
- Disciple infers follower. Who are we following? Being discipled for a specific purpose.
What is mentoring?
- Self discovery, less structured, etc.
- Based on relationship and trust built.
- Often story sharing and situationally-based.
What is coaching?
- One could have a job coach or a physical trainer to grow in one area.
- The goal in mind with a coach is to win or achieve a goal, discipleship doesn’t have as clear of an end point.
- Life coach: broad subject maters but built around meeting your goals and needs.
- 5 R’s of coaching: Relate, Reflect, Refocus, Resource, Review.
Second, let’s look at the relative motivations of those that coach, mentor, and disciple. What type of relationship is developed?
Who is discipling?
- More of a teacher.
- An equiper, allowing them to discover.
- Wise person on a hill. Someone to be followed, watched, learned from.
- Passing on a worldview, wisdom, experience.
- A very selective person who picks wisely.
Who is mentoring?
- Someone who has some experience that benefits the mentee.
- A friendly relationship to process situations and gain outside insight.
Who is coaching?
- A authority or heavy to help achieve some goal (with consequences)
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Finally, what are the intended objectives, assignments, and evaluations for each of these?
Why choose discipleship?
- Based on Spiritual maturity and their ability to pass that on.
- Willingness to experiment and try things.
- A discipler desires to develop Christian maturity into people’s lives that they will reproduce into other’s lives.
Why choose mentoring?
- People who need encouragement in a position or situation
- Giving permission for doing challenging things.
- A mentor desires to increase their impact leveraging their experience and relationships.
Why choose coaching?
- Transition points and changes in life.
- Desire to improve in a specific area of life or ministries.
- Coach would desire improve the overall performance of a group or an individual.